Happiness: It’s an emotion, not a destination

Happiness is one of life’s most beautiful emotions. It is in no way linear, it may feel fleeting at the best of times, but when it’s within us its presence cannot be denied.

Happiness is not measured by time. It can grown within us during grande moments such as getting our dream job or simply by lying in front of the telly after a long day and watching a new episode of our favourite series.

I feel very conflicted by the common societal question posed to all of us at some/multiple points in our lives- are you happy? There is so much darn pressure to be happy, when we easily forget that happiness is an emotion and in no way a solitary definitive explanation for what’s going on in our lives.

Speaking as someone who has anxiety, much of my life I have been desperate to find happiness, forgetting that is a merely an emotion that I experienced at multiple moments in my life (even if just for a second a day). See, we so easily perceive the other negative emotions we constantly experience as human beings: sadness, stress, anger, fear, disappointment (to name a few). We easily pick up on them, yet many of us are apprehensive to admit we’re feeling happy.

Why is that? Because society is obsessed with defining happiness as this magical destination– the one that’s at the end of the journey once you’ve fought off all the other negative emotions. So we spend most of our lives searching for happiness and therefore quickly dismissing the abundance of times we already felt it.

Like I said, happiness is merely an emotion- not a destination. It is an emotion we have, are and will continue to feel in our lives just like sadness, stress, anger, fear and disappointment.

In any given day we can experience all of them. There is of course no denying that there are periods in our lives where one emotion becomes more powerful than the others, but that doesn’t mean we are constricted to it.

A few months ago, I wrote a post about how I was feeling happiness by simply lying in front of the telly and eating my fave breakfast dish from my fave takeaway restaurant- and I’m so glad I shared that because even though it was a moment of fleeting happiness, I really owned what I was feeling and that simple moment has become a beautiful memory.

It’s always easier said than done, but I highly encourage you to own your happiness whenever you feel it.


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